Friday, April 12, 2013

K is for Keep Your Language Hang-Ups Off My Blog


As some of you will be aware, I have come under fire recently for my use of language. No one seemed to notice or care about my use of language until I signed up for the A to Z Challenge this year, which I am still, doing, even though the other members of the Bitchery Triad quit on the first day. But what can you expect from a couple of b*&ches.

All for one my ass.

After I signed up for the A to Z Challenge, I was asked to watch my language even though there’s nothing about that in the official rules (I checked) and I appear to be the only one who was asked (and I know I’m not the only one who drops an occasional f-bomb online). 

I wasn’t keen on the thought of putting an adult content warning on my blog – I’ve had one in the past and it freaks people out. They hunt me down and say things like “I tried to read your blog post but when I clicked on the link it sent me to a porn site,” and stuff like that. Not everyone is as familiar with the blogosphere as we are. So, instead, I put in place this nifty header that you see above. I also reverted back to my old habit of inserting symbols (*&^%&) instead of letters in the middle of dirty words because, as we all know, that changes their meaning.

Even after I put in the header I still got comments about how I need to watch my language because THERE ARE CHILDREN ON THIS INTERNET. As my brilliant friend Kelly pointed out, “You know somewhere out there in cyberspace there is an orgy featuring dwarves and a guy in a unicorn costume getting busy in a vat of creamed corn, but it’s your swear words that are going to ruin the children.”

I’m not trying to be insensitive to little people by including that remark – I’m pretty sure that in this scenario, the dwarves in question are the ones from Snow White. In other words, I couldn’t have said it better myself.

I’m not here to parent other peoples’ children. If your kids are getting on the Internet, you should be right there watching everything they do, not depending on content creators to keep the interwebs family-friendly for your benefit. 

It may also shock you to know that if your kids are under 13, they aren’t allowed to make accounts on Facebook or Blogger or almost any other website not specifically aimed at children, because compliance with the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act of 1998 is so difficult. Keep that in mind the next time you feel the itch to correct someone’s language “for the sake of the children.”

Oh crap, I just did research at you.

41 comments:

  1. Are you FUCKING kidding me? Come over to my place and drop the F-bomb as often as you like. It's practically a requirement.

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    1. I think you meant to say it's practically a FUCKING requirement. ;)

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    2. Fuck yeah. And fuckity fuck fuck, it's fucking Friday.

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    3. hahahah, Rebecca, I thought of you as I was reading the post. Glad to see your fucking comment. Gosh that felt good to say.

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  2. Fuck Yeah! I hate being censored because someone else can't control their kids.

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    1. Yeah, I know. It's not as if I'm saying it right in front of them or something.

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  3. I saw the stipulation about adult content when I signed up for the A to Z challenge, but I didn't think the use of expletives would have been a criteria for that designation.
    Honestly, by day 4 I was regretting that I signed up. I realized I have way too many bloggers who I already follow to be gung-ho about visiting other participants. Sure, new visitors to my own blog are exciting, but I'm not really having any fun writing.
    That being said, glad I stumbled upon this post. Keep being yourself!

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    1. I certainly will, I don't know who else to be! Glad you enjoyed the post, and thanks for commenting! :)

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  4. You go, Marjorie! I enjoyed your post a lot. The banner tells it all for readers who are offended by "French" words. This is my first AtoZ challenge, probably my last. I'm getting annoyed of coming across bloggers who tell others that their posts are too long. Sheesh!

    Take 25 to Hollister
    Don't be a Hippie

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    1. How irritating! A lot of the bloggers I'm meeting are just generally unpleasant people. One a few posts ago straight up told me I need to "get a life." I'm like, putting a smiley face after your pissy comment doesn't make you any less of a bitch, sweetheart. Funnily enough she runs one of those hippie blogs about how we're all interconnected. *shudder*

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    2. Eew! I hate hippie-crits more than those in suits. It's just...unnatural.

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    3. I'm sure they'd be wearing suits if they thought it was fashionable.

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  5. This horrible cussing has me super upset. Not.

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  6. AH, the Guardians of Moral Truth have been after you, eh? Lame. Especially since most A to Z participants are writers and should know a thing or two about freedom of speech. Ignore them and say whatever the fuck you want.

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    1. At the very least you'd think they'd know I'm going to write about it. Thanks for the support!

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  7. Glad you're still participating. shame only one of the three of you continued. I was looking forward to seeing the posts from all of you. Take care. Creamed corn you say? tee hee xx

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    1. Quitters never win, that's what I say. Failure is not an option! FREEEEDOOOOMMMMMM!

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  8. I am pretty sure you are not the only one . . . however, I have been laughing and enjoying your blog.

    Rhonda @Laugh-Quotes.com
    Visiting from AtoZ #41

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    1. Glad you like it. :) I wish I knew who these other bloggers were, though, so we could band together...

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  9. My son will be 16 soon, and I am fairly certain that potty mouth is the least of my worries of what he sees on the internet (let alone the school bus). It is funny what you said about the adult content warning screen.

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    1. Well, it does mean "porn ahead," right? Your teenage son probably sees worse things on TV than on this blog. Don't let him watch Game of Thrones.

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  10. The language and content issue isn't just "for the kids". People read blogs for many reasons. Some may want to be shocked or just entertained, while others want to learn, gain enlightenment, or be inspired. It's helpful to filter out what others don't want to read so they don't feel like they've been directed to a site they feel wastes their time. Different strokes as they say.

    It's difficult to please everyone in a large ranging event like A to Z, but I think we've done fairly well and we learn more every year. Please bear with us. Tolerance extends to us all.

    Thanks!

    Lee
    A Few Words
    An A to Z Co-host blog

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    1. This is the first time I've heard anything about it not being "just 'for the kids.'" Also I can't help but notice that you haven't addressed my concern about this "rule" not being a part of the actual rules -- you know, the actual official rules that everyone gets to see ahead of time. If you want to make a rule about language, you need to make it a PUBLICIZED rule that EVERYONE KNOWS ABOUT. You can't make up arbitrary rules as you go along. When you do that, bloggers like me feel rightly persecuted and write posts like this.

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    2. Since this Challenge began as a small challenge to the individual, originally there were no rules. After the event grew as it have the circumstances started to change. We've gotten complaints on both sides of the fence with most leaning toward giving an Adult Content warning so visitors wouldn't be surprised by material they found offensive. We did explain this prior to the sign-ups and had posts on the A to Z Blog about this subject.

      It's a sticky topic to deal with. I am not a big fan of censorship, but likewise I think there's a matter of decorum that should be in place and addressed by those who wish to resort to bawdiness.

      Like I've suggested A to Z is a work in progress overseen by unpaid bloggers who want to do this in the spirit of fun. We are interested in the growth of the event, but that will not be achieved by running bloggers off in droves due to overly offensive blogging behavior.

      Next year we'll need to examine further the idea of more rules (and I don't particularly like too many rules) and better guidelines so more people can enjoy the Challenge to a greater extent. Maybe two Challenge lists?

      And yes, if we are doing a free thing that we're trying to do to enhance our image as bloggers and authors as well as helping others to enhance their images, then we have every right to make up arbitrary rules as we run into new problems and unforeseen situations. We'll chalk it up to our experience and revise our approach next time around. I'm not sure why you would suggest that asking you or other bloggers to help us with cooperation is persecution since I know of no public condemnation of you or your blogs and no one was removed from the list--only asked to be labeled with a warning.

      If you are a regular reader of my main blog Tossing It Out, which I doubt that you are, you may know that I welcome controversy and debate. The topic of obscenity has been addressed in the past on my blog and will be addressed again in the future. I've had detractors for what I do sometimes--that's life! Not everyone has to agree with the way I do things. Starting after the Challenge on May 3rd we'll will be doing our annual A to Z Challenge Reflections posts. We hope that you will express your concerns at that time in a rational manner that doesn't run new readers off. We want people to vent against what they don't like and praise what they do if they do like anything. I hope you will join us in this post-Challenge event with your suggestions to enhance the Challenge and add your opinions to the debate.

      Thank you!

      Lee
      Blogging from A to Z
      Twitter: @AprilA2Z
      #atozchallenge

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    3. I have had a content warning on my header since before this challenge began. I feel persecuted because I have complied with requests to post a content warning and yet I have been repeatedly nagged about my inappropriate content in spite of my cooperation. Of course you would know that if you had actually read this post, which you clearly have not.

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    4. Marjorie has a content warning on her blog. If someone can't fucking read, that is their fucking problem, not hers. As you said, they are unpaid bloggers. Kind of hard to enforce too many rules for your bullshit event when you aren't fucking paying. I doubt she has a desire to read your Tossing Your Salad blog, I know I sure don't. If anyone has a problem with her blog, life sucks, get a fucking helmet.

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  11. I'm surprised, honestly, that you've come under fire while I have not. My blog is much more cuss-ish than yours is... and yours is way funnier than mine. Although, it might be that I've fallen slightly behind (like, over a week now). I'm betting when I start to catch up, mine gets some heat as well.

    Speaking of what kids hear on the bus... my niece was offered weed, my nephew overheard a conversation about some racist fifth-grade little a-holes who wanted to assassinate the prez for being black, and my own son was party to hazing due to his dark skin. So the argument that kids need to be protected is fucking reedonkulous considering the shit they are obviously learning at home.

    As for the "it's not about the kids" deal... I've stated on my own blog multiple times that I speak how I want cuz I don't blog for anyone but myself. I defy someone to tell *ME* on my own space that I need to watch my mouth. Bring it, bitches. Unless you pay my hosting fees or buy a new keyboard for me next time I knock my letters out of commission, your input means exactly squat. Seriously. Visiting my blog is only a waste of time if you stay there after having discovered it's not to your liking. Up till that moment, it's a learning experience, as in, "HUH, guess I won't be reading THIS shit ever again!" If you keep coming back for me... well there's your waste of time, dipshit.

    Sorry to rant at such length in your comments section, Marjorie. You've obviously hit a hot button which many of us share. You aren't alone.

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    1. I've been catching flack about it since the day I put my name down on the list, and they continued to nag me about it EVEN AFTER I PUT UP THE CONTENT WARNING. Some other commenters appear to think that since I admit my blog is filthy, I should welcome censorship. Wtf? Am I not a grown-ass woman in my 30s? Should I not be allowed to write whatever the fuck I want on my own damn blog? Apparently not! I guess I didn't have any readers at all before I joined this freakin' challenge! Shock value my ass, has he even read this blog? Obviously not. I doubt he even read this post, since he skipped all of my legitimate concerns and jumped straight into lecturing me about why they have the right to censor my content. Rant away, honey, I don't mind at all.

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  12. "I’m not here to parent other peoples’ children. If your kids are getting on the Internet, you should be right there watching everything they do, not depending on content creators to keep the interwebs family-friendly for your benefit."

    Spot on and still not finding filthy language on this site?? well maybe a little in the comments, but I'm confused by this row I've read 3 of your posts and what exactly are you meant to be doing that you shouldn't?? why are you being censored??
    Seems a lot of bollocks (crap) to me. (a proud English swear word, US version balls (as in mens balls) also used in 'the dog's bollocks' meaning the best something can be, a personal favourite of mine. Also you can get a bollocking ie a telling off.
    as in 'before anyone bollocks me, I put 'u's in words because I'm English and that's how they are spelt in England.'
    maggie winter
    #atozchallenge.

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  13. What I find most amusing is people who are offended, and then *keep looking*. If I happen upon something that offends me, I STOP LOOKING.

    And really, if people are worrying about their kids seeing a few naughty words, then they might want to check their browser history and see what ELSE the children may have been looking at. I suspect swear words are going to be the least of their worries!

    So I say, keep on blogging :)

    (NB: If it is an argument or point the other blogger is making that I don't like, I may choose to put my own point forward - politely of course - or let them be. That's what freedom of speech is, last time I checked.)

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    1. Actually, "freedom of speech" refers to the government's right to make laws. Its protections do not extend to those operating under the aegis of private organizations. Sorry, this is a pet peeve of mine.

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    2. As an Australian I was referring to this: http://www.immi.gov.au/living-in-australia/choose-australia/about-australia/five-freedoms.htm

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    3. Oh, well, okay. Thanks. Don't know much about Australia.

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  14. What the fuck? What a bunch of immature assholes. Give me their motherfucking blog addresses and I'll give them a piece of my mind. HAHAHAHA! Are you KIDDING me?!

    Hey, Marjorie! The next time that happens, send them over to my sites. That will REALLY give them something to bitch about. LOL. I love you, kiddo.

    By the way, sorry I've been MIA here for a long time. Nothing personal, it's just my shitty life. You knew there was at least one more fucking swear coming, right?! Hahahaha!

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    1. You know you can swear as much as you want to here, right? In fact, I've inspired my own blog hop, the ABCs of Swearing, which starts next month, and for which you can sign up here -- http://hypnoticbard.blogspot.com/p/swearing-to-z.html?showComment=1366215096074

      Don't worry, you don't have to blog every day or anything! Just make sure you get the right letter for that day!

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