Tuesday, April 16, 2013

N is for No, This Blog Isn’t Obscene

Those of you coming from the A to Z Challenge may be surprised to find that there isn’t any pornography on this blog. Well, there is that one post where I talk about dishwasher-safe dildos, but I can assure you that I discuss them in a thoroughly nonsexual manner. Of course, the mere mention of dildos is probably why Arlee Bird told me yesterday that my blog is obscene and labeled it “adult content” on the A to Z challenge sign-up list, removing my humor tag, which sucks, because, you know, it’s humor. Not porn. Big difference.

He did it because I keep using words like “fuck” and “shit” even though I have been told to clean up my act. Also, perhaps because he seems to have taken personal offense to my recent post, “K is for Keep Your Language Hang-Ups Off My Blog,” because he left me some wordy and downright condescending feedback in the comments, in which he let me know that my “obscenity” isn’t just harmful to the kiddies, but offensive to absolutely everyone who’s unfairly forced to read “a site they feel wastes their time.” He implied that my blog isn’t informational, insightful or inspiring at all, but is only interesting to those who “may want to be shocked or just entertained.”

Nothing to see here, folks, move along.

He accused me of “running bloggers off in droves due to [my] overly offensive blogging behavior.” (I assume he was talking about me, since he left this remark on my blog.) He also claims, “I am not a big fan of censorship, but likewise I think there’s a matter of decorum that should be in place and addressed by those who wish to resort to bawdiness.” (Yes, he actually said "bawdiness." I know.)

I let him know that I was feeling persecuted because it's unfair to make up arbitrary rules as you go along, not publicize them, and then only apply them to one person (again, other bloggers in this challenge are telling me that they've had no complaints about their use of language and have never heard of there being at rule about it). He let me know that "asking you or other bloggers to help us with cooperation" is not persecution, although he did seem unaware that I have, in fact, cooperated, in the form of the adult language header that you can see right at the top of every page of this blog, now and since before the challenge started. 

So, again, just to be super clear to everyone -- I feel persecuted because I was asked to clean up my language OR place an adult content warning on my blog. I chose to place the warning. After I placed the warning, I continued to receive requests to clean up my language, even though I had done as I was asked by placing the warning. Are we all on the same page now? Great. Moving on.

In answer to my claim that it's not fair to make up arbitrary rules as you go along, Arlee replied, “Yes, if we are doing a free thing that we're trying to do to enhance our image as bloggers and authors as well as helping others to enhance their images, then we have every right to make up arbitrary rules as we run into new problems and unforeseen situations.” 

You sure are enhancing your image by talking down to a 30-year-old blogger as if she’s your unruly teen-aged child. He's helping me, see, and I'm just being ungrateful, see. He then goes on to invite me to “express [my] concerns in a rational manner” – emphasis mine, must’ve been blogging on my period again, oops – as part of the A to Z Challenge Reflections event in May. Yes, because I’m 100% positive that he will allow me to express myself freely in that forum.

The funny part of all this is that Arlee dressed me down for not taking appropriate measures to comply with the arbitrary rules that he's allowed to make up IN THE COMMENTS OF A POST ABOUT MY EFFORTS TO COMPLY WITH THE ARBITRARY RULES THAT HE'S ALLOWED TO MAKE UP. I take this as evidence that he didn't actually read the post, but just read the title and then skipped straight to the comments. "A woman is talking, I must put her in her place!" Jeebus wept.

And yes, before you say anything, I know he’s the founder and I know it’s his challenge. This, however, is my blog.

UPDATE: Hey, everybody, Something Clever 2.0 has picked up this story and blogged about it for her readers! Hop on over there and take a look! Leave comments! Be nice! 

Aaaaaand, I've inspired a new blogging challenge!!!! Sorry for the multiple exclamation points, but I'm just too excited!!! The Insomniac's Dream is hosting the ABCs of Swearing next month! Don't worry, it's not as full-on as the A to Z Challenge. Go to her blog to read about it, and sign up!

57 comments:

  1. you'll get no argument from me. mebbe you can start a new challenge? Cursing through the alphabet? I even have a word for Q. whadddaya think?

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    1. I think I can't wait to find out what this Q word is!

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    2. I'm totally up for an Offensive Alphabet series. My readers would love it.

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    3. You should both do the ABCs of Swearing!

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  2. I guess I see a difference between potty mouth and adult content/obscenity (unless the potty mouth is describing something actually obscene). This whole thing is frustrating (oh, incase you didn't know that).

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    1. Yeah, I'm not even sure I understand why this is still an issue. I put the freakin' warning up, didn't I?

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  3. I think your hysterical. I'm enjoying your writing.
    Connie
    A to Z-ing
    Peanut Butter and Whine

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  4. You're my new best fucking friend!!! And I've no complaints though I swear like a sailor and say things like twat waffles and dick. Wow.

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    1. Yay a new best friend! Timely, too, twat waffle is getting to be a favorite around here.

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    2. She says "twat waffle" IN her A-Z posts, and Whiny McBitcherson hasn't shut her down.

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    3. Yes! That's exactly the kind of thing I'm talking about!

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  5. LOL, this is all hilariously ridiculous. I am "doing" the A to Z Challenge, but when I read all the rules back in January and realized there was some sort of deadline months in advance to "sign up" I thought - blow this, I can't commit to a 30-day challenge this far in advance.

    What I find amusing, is that one of his helpers did stop by one of my blogs just to make sure I knew they were watching me.

    Whatever. I am pretty close to blowing off N, or even just posting it tomorrow. I'd love to see some sort of blow back from that egregious deviation from the rules.

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    1. I think I signed up in March, or something? Or maybe February? I don't know, I just remember that it seemed like a really long way away at the time.

      A TO Z CHALLENGE IS WATCHING YOU. THEY'RE WATCHING YOU.

      I think the worst they can do is take you off the list, if they even notice.

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  6. Oh. Also, your posts are too long. ;)

    -The Insomniacs Dream

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    1. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA You must know my friend Darla, she's getting the same complaint!

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  7. "N" is for "Nonsense". Yes, I read all the rules too. Blahbiddy blah blah. Adult Content, blahbiddy blah blah. We're all big boys and girls and we can handle a few harmless words. They ARE words after all. I tried to veer away from the 4 letter variety for the challenge, but Goddamit, it's hard. What the fuck? I finally broke down and used a couple of Satan's words and whaddya know? Nothing happened. No one was devastated or corrupted and so far *knocks wood* I haven't been slapped on the wrist for it. I wasn't about to label my blog either. It's a humor blog like yours. Why put a Moral Majority disclaimer on it? One of the hosts of the challenge dropped by my blog the first week also, I suspect to let me know they are watching. Just keep on keeping on. Solidarity. There's always tomorrow. "O". For "O"bvious Horseshit. ;)

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  8. Sorry you feel the way you do and wish to be contentious. What you say in your post is not entirely true from my viewpoint, but is something you apparently believe and wish to convey to your readers. I don't spend my time with this Challenge each year to create enemies, but to do something that is fun and in the spirit of inspiring other bloggers to create quality content on their sites.

    In any case peace be with you and I encourage you to spread positiveness as much as you are able to do. I try add some kind of goodness to the world as much as I can, but not everyone agrees with me nor do I agree with everyone else. Take care.

    Lee
    An A to Z Co-Host
    Tossing It Out

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    1. Wow, I just love such deep, heartfelt apologies. "Gosh, I'm sorry you're mad that I was a jerk. It's obviously because you can't 'spread positiveness' like me. I'm so sorry that you're at fault for my condescending air of entitlement." Marjorie, I'm sure you feel much better now, right?

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    2. Why don't you apologize for being a douchenozzle? You can spout your own version of morality on your own blog as much as you want. Doesn't mean it's ok to come on hers and tell her what the fuck to say. Don't matter what event you started, as mentioned before, no one in this thing is paid and doing it on their own blogs, so your rules are a joke and complete bullshit. Maybe I'll do a blog and call it A is for Arlee who likes to cry on other people's blogs because he is a controlling assmunch.

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    3. Wow you guys, I couldn't have said it better myself. Thanks!

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    4. "I'm sorry you're a lying jerk" is NOT an apology.

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    5. Protip: Just because you use the word "sorry" doesn't mean you're apologizing.

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    6. Aw, fuck. Looks to me like you are all just too hard on orderly bird with your fowl language, seedy humor, and staging a coop.

      A.) His birdbrain medication needs dosage adjustment. Did he really throw in "peace be with you" there? And "as you're able to"? Wonder what else voices tell him.

      B.) It could be a physical deformity for which he's compensating. By the way, what do you call a guy with three eggs in his pants when his bird hasn't hatched?

      In either case, all y'all are mean to a differently-abled creature who just wants peace in the world and joy spreading. Think goatse, but with glitter and rainbows bursting forth.

      Let's all play nice now with mr bird dropping.
      ~PolishSpring

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    7. Wow, that is a pretty damn condescending replies I've seen lately. You still failed to address the fact that Marge has put a warning that her blog contains adult content and you're still telling her to censor herself. I love when people like you try to be passively-aggressively insulting to sway from the fact you don't have a adequate answer.

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  9. This is exactly the sort of thing I was worried about when I signed up for this challenge. I did not want to stick an adult content label on my blog because I don't believe bitching about math or organ meat qualifies as adult content. Yes, I swear a lot (I'm trying to keep it relatively PG 13 for April) and I put a disclaimer on my blog header to warn people with delicate sensibilities that my blog may not be for them due to the swearing, so I figured that would be good enough. And apparently it has been good enough, because one of the challenge organizers follows my blog, so I figure if I was breaking the rules, she would have said something by now...and she hasn't.

    I'm not sure why you're being singled out, because probably half the posts I've read (and all of my own posts) have contain swearing...and none of them have an adult content label. What I'm really taking offense to is his suggestion that blogs like yours (and mine, for that matter) are a waste of time. Excuse me??? My blog may not be inspiring world peace or making people cry because it's so beautifully insightful but last time I checked, there was no hierarchy of blogging that states any blog that does not conform to one guy's opinion of what good writing is automatically get consigned to the blogging sewer.

    I write inane posts about stupid shit. My goal is to make someone laugh so hard they spit their beverage all over their laptop. It's not a cure for cancer, but life without laughter is a life not worth living, IMHO. Who gives a flying fuck about what you write, as long as it's well-written? Is that not the goal of writing, to write something that comes to life on the page?

    Your writing is fantastic. You have a unique, hysterically funny voice and personally, I love your subject matter and the way you write about it. Fuck anyone who suggests otherwise. I'm your newest follower and I'll definitely be back :)

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    1. Thanks!!! Glad you like it!

      I honestly didn't think it would be this big of a deal! Lots of other people are posting swear words and even worse! I guess my particular set of co-hosts are sticklers.

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  10. Hi, I was sent over from Jenn at I will read EVERYTHING you have in your archive! Love what I've seen so far, and I love Jenn, so if she loves you, than I love you too!

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  11. I really don't like hearing that this is happening, and I'm sorry for you.

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  12. I'm sorry I missed the post on the dildos. I think we should be allowed to be who we are on our own blogs without policing by commenters. No one is forced to read anything. They can just click away.

    Be who you are and be proud.

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    1. That's my plan! Thanks for your support! :)

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  13. Well it's sure got you some new fans:)
    #atozchallenge
    maggie winter

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  14. Funny that you mention offence at some of the religious stuff above because after I had signed up for the challenge I started to read through some of the blogs and also found the religious content of some to be, well, off-putting let's just say. But, with nearly 2,000 blogs to get through, I just had a quick read, knew it wasn't for me and then moved on to some others. I found out about your blog because Maple Syrup mentioned it and I found out about Maple Syrup because someone commented in the A to Z blog that it should be removed because the current post is "fowl" [sic] and "land blasting of you organizers" [sic - maybe they mean lambasting?]. So I'm one reader who may not have otherwise gotten around to reading your blog and will now make a point of checking out your previous posts. I don't curse much when writing (I reckon that's because of Ms. McDonagh, my 5th class teacher) but I do a lot of it when speaking and don't have any problems with those who write the way I talk. :) And if I did, how easy is it just to click away and not come back. It's not exactly rocket science!

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    1. Oh, they want me taken off the list now, huh? Do they not realize that I will blog about that too?

      Thanks for reading and commenting. I should probably warn you, I don't use that much filthy language. But, I guess you say "fuck" once and the Moral Police chuck you in the dungeon and throw away the keys.

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    2. No, not you. Maple Syrup. Sorry, should have made that clearer. (The comment is here: http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/p/contact-us.html)
      Going to have to get to bed now but look forward to coming back to read some more tomorrow, especially since I caught a glimpse of your 'M' title, a favourite soapbox of mine.

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    3. OMG that's hilarious! Also, I'm pretty sure Maple Syrup is a woman? No matter.

      Sleep tight. I've been enjoying your blog too so you're sure to see more of me. :)

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    4. OMFG, I just checked that post...too funny! That woman's comment just completely validated my reasons for taking myself out of the challenge. I left a polite comment to clarify that 1) it's Maple Syrup LAND, not Lane, 2) I'm female 3)I'm not poultry (fowl...I'm still snickering over that) and 4)I have not even come close to posting every cuss word in my vocabulary.

      I'm sorely tempted to change my blog name to "Fowl Fucking Language"

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    5. Oh my god, Maple Syrup Land, do it!! If only for a day, please!! This is seriously pissing me off.

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    6. Maple I just read your blog post this morning ('cuz you know how on track I am with shit)about all the BS with marge's blog. I was pretty ticked off reading her story but I had no idea they left that comment about you until just now. What suck flaps. I agree with the temporary name change, that'd be awesomely hilarious!

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    7. I think I'm going to have to start saying suck flaps. It's not like they can even complain about that. Neither "suck" nor "flaps" is technically obscene.

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  15. One of his "ambassadors" disapproved of my post on Chlamydia. I don't even know how many BibleBlogs I have to sift through to find posts of interest to me. Your blog is unique and interesting and I'm glad I came across it. Why other people cant pass over blogs that don't interest them, is beyond me.

    Best of luck with the dictator.

    -Fellow A to Z-er

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    1. One good thing about all this is that I no longer have to sort through Bible Blogs because the good blogs are now coming to me. Thanks for reading, glad you enjoyed it!

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  16. Marjorie, I would like you to please remove all posts containing anything I don't like. If in doubt, assume I don't like it, and delete immediately. You are not being positive or adding value, and are only trying to shock me. I hate that shit. Being shocked evokes emotions with which I am unable to deal. Also, my daughter is 8 and she might see me laughing, which would countermand the stern expression I usually direct her way. I do not want my child to see me being happy. I want her to know how very much life sucks. Also, I demand you pray. Because praying will heal your filthy mind, as well as keep your ice from melting. One more thing. Find a man to take better care of you, because you obviously can't manage your eggs well enough on your own. Maybe if you worried more about what others think, you'd be more drone-like, which is what we love most in others. Sameness keeps the STDs at bay.

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    1. Well, you sure did put my in my place. I'll go ahead and delete this blog and stop working and find a rich man to marry right away, as is the right and proper thing to do.

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  17. Arlee, Dude...I sense that you can't seem to help being a self righteous, controlling, condescending douche canoe. Still not an excuse. You're not the arbiter of good taste and positivity Arl. Just so you now. A is for Arlee. B is for bullshit. C is for Can't believe your nerve. Z is for your influence on the blogosphere zzzzzzzzz.

    Go Marjorie!

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    1. Thanks!!! I will! I am! Look at me go! SO POSITIVE!!!

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  18. What the fuck? I am doing the A-Z and know that I have cussed in several of my post, yet no one has even commented on that.

    Way to pick on the little guy. Does he have absolutely nothing to do with his life.

    My theory, if you don't like it, don't read it. He is an adult, he can make that choice.

    Fuck him!

    Love your blog and good for you for being yourself!

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    1. Yeah, they're definitely applying these rules of theirs at random. Thanks for the support! Glad you like it! :)

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  19. I found you through the A to Z Challenge and have been reading for about a week (although I'm obviously a few days behind). And I will continue to read afterwards, regardless of what Arlee likes.

    ABC's of Cussing - That shit is fucking hilarious. I look forward to those posts. I bookmarked the sign up page so I can go read everybody's posts when May starts.

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    1. Sweet! Thanks for reading and commenting, I'm glad you're enjoying it!

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