Saturday, November 4, 2017

In Which I Brag About My Non-Traditional Engagement Ring

It's Day 4 of NaBloPloMo, and I have some exciting news -- I'm getting married!

I guess I could've scratched the little bit of polish off my pinkie nail before I took this picture.

Jim and I have actually been "soft engaged" since last weekend, when I informed him that I'd picked out my engagement ring. He proposed in the car, while we were on the way to buy groceries. It was very romantic. We announced the engagement at our Halloween party the next night, and although we swore everyone to secrecy, my friend Mark told his dad. THANKS MARK. >:(

I decided to go with a "diamond alternative" ring, for two reasons: 1) the exploitative diamond industry, and 2) the marketing ploy that normalized diamond engagement rings in the first place. Actually, there's a third reason: price. I know I'm not supposed to brag about how cheap my engagement ring was, but it was very affordable, which is important because we're adults and we have mouths to feed. Cat food isn't getting any cheaper.

At first, I wasn't really sure I wanted an engagement ring because, you know, it's an outdated and sexist tradition. I mean, engagement rings were originally meant as a kind of financial deposit on a woman's virginity, so that even if the man decided to break the engagement the jilted fiancée would still have some means of support even though she would now be spoiled, like old produce, and unable to find another man,since who wants a used vagina, right?

I explained all of this to one of my girlfriends, and she countered with, "But, sparkly!" which I found to be a cogent and convincing argument. Besides, it's not like anyone believed I was a virgin to begin with, anyway. To even things out, I offered to buy Jim a mangagement ring, but maybe I shouldn't have called it that, because he wasn't interested. 

ANYWAY, I chose a moissanite ring, because they're supposed to be shinier than diamonds,  and although I can't really speak to that because I don't have any diamonds to compare it to, I can say that it is pretty sparkly. Also, it comes from space!  Moissanite is very rare in nature; it was discovered in 1893 by French chemist Henri Moissan, who found it in samples of a meteorite from Canyon Diablo, Arizona. It has also been found in upper mantle rock, and as inclusions in other minerals, including diamonds and less glamorous rocks, like kimberlite and lamproite


8 comments:

  1. Your ring is beautiful and very sparkly! I'm all for saving money too. I have a sapphire engagement ring because I didn't want diamond either; I wanted to be a little different! Like diamonds you can get different quality sapphires but mine wasn't at the 'top end' which I didn't care about. My ring was cheap as far as engagement rings go and I love it! Good for you for not being dragged into all the hype!
    Mind Over Meta

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    1. I love sapphires, too! My ring isn't "top end" either, but who has a couple grand to drop on a ring? That's my wedding budget lol!

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  2. Congratulations! Your ring is very pretty. I did not know about the reasons for engagement rings or the history behind them before reading your post, very interesting!

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  3. It's refreshing to see someone who shares the same thinking on engagement rings as me. When my husband proposed, we didn't have two dimes to our name. We really had no business getting engaged, but we were in love, so there was that. He proposed with a ring he got me for college graduation two years earlier -- literally, by taking it off one finger and putting it on another. I was thrilled. My so-called friends had a few things to say otherwise. All this was 25 years ago and we're still married! (And I did eventually get an "upgraded" ring about five years later, but wore that original ring until my finger swelled too much. :)

    Great to meet you through the NaBloPoMo link up on Blissful Lemon!

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    1. Awww that's so sweet! Sounds like you made the right choice -- ring or no ring! lol

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  4. Fantastic!!!! Congratulations!

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